My baby turned one last September, and I was filled with awe and gratitude as I reflected on the last 12 months. It felt like, for the first time since he was born, I processed just how profoundly my life has changed. Motherhood is, by far, the most glorious, soul-nourishing, life-giving experience I've ever known, but possibly the most challenging and at times, terrifying!

Below are 18 insights and things that gave me joy and peace during this transformative year. I don’t just mean baby items to fill a registry - though I can certainly dive into that one day. These are the words of wisdom, daily routines, and practical items that were gifts in their own way. Of course, my experience won't be the same as yours. But if I can offer you any insight and comfort through my journey, then I am delighted you’re reading this.

18 Insights and Simple Pleasures I Cherished the Most

Words of wisdom: Every stage is fleeting, so cherish it

I was told this many times before having a baby, but the words didn’t mean much then. When you’re utterly exhausted from sleepless night after night, this can feel far from true. I remember wondering if I’d ever sleep a full night again (you will!)

It's quite remarkable to look back at certain stages that now feel like a distant blip. I once read on Reddit: With every stage, there will be a last time, and you probably won’t even know it’s happening when it does. This nearly reduced me to tears because it’s so true. There will be a last time waking in the night to feed your baby, a last time they drink from a bottle, a last time they’re put in a high chair... This list goes on and on, and you probably won't know it's the last time when it is! Realizing this helps me savor every moment in the good and challenging times.

Uninterrupted time to myself

My husband has been the most wonderful anchor, and he encourages me to take uninterrupted hours for myself on Saturday and Sunday mornings. Whether getting my nails done, visiting the farmer's market, or enjoying a quiet coffee, this time provides a precious recharge. Of course, this isn't the only time I get for myself, but consistently knowing it's there gives me special peace of mind.

Overnight oats

I'm not kidding, overnight oats were a big theme in my year and simply couldn't go unmentioned! From breastfeeding to holding a baby all day, it's easy to get very hungry as a new mother. I craved carbs and sugar, and overnight oats are perfect for staying healthy and pretty nutritious with chia seeds, oats, and Greek yogurt. They are simple to whip up, so delicious, and with many variations, I never got bored. Clean & Delicious on Youtube has some amazing recipes if you want to check her out. 

Audiobooks

I love reading, but enjoying a good book felt impossible until I discovered audiobooks. I listen on stroller walks, during nursing sessions, or watching my baby play independently. It is the perfect escape outside baby land where I can still watch him safely and have my hands free.

Rocking my baby to sleep and just staying there

I got into the habit of putting my baby down almost immediately when he slept so I can get as much done as possible. That's absolutely necessary at times, but there is something so sacred about doing nothing else but letting your baby sleep in your arms. It was a seven-hour plane ride that helped me remember this. On the flight, I could do nothing else but hold him as he slept. It was heavenly. I realized that I shouldn't need a plane to have moments like this. Things can wait, but this won't always be there.

Water bottle with a straw

I know this seems like a no-brainer, but having a good water bottle as a new mom is vital. It’s too easy to get dehydrated from breastfeeding or pumping, and simply getting distracted looking after a baby all day! I really appreciate my solid plastic water bottle with a built-in straw. I can drink from it easily while my hands are full, and the straw helps keep spillage to a minimum. I also don’t need to worry about glass breaking near the baby. Bottom line — a water bottle you love will help you drink more water. 

Dog park outings

Babies don’t need a lot to be entertained, but I was sometimes in a rut for new and fun things to do. One day, we walked by the dog park, and he absolutely loved watching the dogs play so I make a routine of it. One of his first words was "Dog!" It was like watching his favourite TV show where I also got a refreshing outdoor break. The perfect outing for us both! 

Exercise bike

In a year where consistent gym visits weren't feasible, my exercise bike was a savior. Whether for five minutes or twenty, I always feel more energized and mentally prepared for the day after my daily bike exercise. I'd place my baby in his playpen or bouncer where he'd play happily or sometimes falls asleep. I know that no matter what, my baby can handle being alone for 5 minutes. More often, I can go longer but keeping the time pressure low helps me stay consistent and commit daily. 

Friends and loved ones being there to help

Life as a new mom can be lonely, and it's not always easy to ask for help. Most people don't particularly enjoy asking for help or readily accepting it, but there's a noticeable difference when people genuinely want to help and push through your polite barriers. I am truly grateful to anyone who visited, babysat or just offered their time to support us.

Baby development book

I am so glad that I document my baby's milestones in a dedicated book. It's amazing how many things I assume I’ll remember and I actually forget! I try to write in my book every month while his behaviours are still fresh in my mind. It became a treasured keepsake as we celebrated his first birthday. If you're curious, here is the baby book I purchased on Etsy.

Crockpot convenience

Discovering the convenience of a crockpot revolutionized my motherhood experience, truly! My family can enjoy a healthy, homemade meal by the time my husband is home from work without me having to dedicate a ton of time and effort. I highly recommend a crockpot cookbook too!

Stroller coffee walks

Yes, I'm aware coffee will cost 5x less when made at home... But my weekly stroller walks to the café where I enjoyed fresh air, exercise, and some human interaction (no matter how small), made every cup well worth the price. I can honestly say it was an investment into my wellbeing.

Homecooked meals

Homecooked meals are a true blessing during the chaotic days of early motherhood. I am so grateful for any meals dropped off when about all I could manage was a PB&J sandwich! I also have to thank my incredible mother for literally nourishing me all year with her divine cooking and kitchen always open... Thank you, Mom!!

Notebook and daily template

There is no doubt that days with a baby can be repetitive. However, creating a daily plan, no matter how routine, provides a sense of order and helps me stay present in the moment. At the same time, reflecting at the end of the day in my notebook became a therapeutic way to appreciate the small victories. 

Local baby drop-in classes

I joined the local mom group in my neighborhood so it's easy to learn about different activities happening. Most activities are free, so there's little pressure to make any hard commitments. My baby enjoyed the change in scenery (as did I) and it's always nice to connect with other moms in a similar place in their journey. 

Embracing slow living

Our fast-paced culture is accustomed to entertainment at our finger tips and instant gratification, but life with a baby doesn't work that way. The pace of life is slow and deliberate and while the contrast is beautiful, I believe it's a significant adjustment for new parents. Embracing this shift has taught me so much about savoring the present moment and finding beauty in the mundane. 

Ending the day watching silly nonsense with my husband

When our baby is finally asleep for the night, I love to make tea, cuddle up with my husband, and watch silly nonsense together. It simply feels good to let the responsibilities of minding a little human fade away, laugh and be reminded of life outside of being parents. I might only have 5 minutes before falling asleep, but it's always worth that time. 

My Faith

Becoming a parent is the mostly humbling experience because we recognize our profound significance and insignificance at the same time. On one hand, we are in this enormous role of sustaining another life, and yet, our own self becomes far less important than it ever once was and ever will be. It's a drastic world shift and for a while, I felt like a wobbly baby learning how to walk. But usually it's in the wilderness season, the unknown, where we find faith. There are so many unknowns having a child, and faith was the best gift my baby gave me. It’s like God came knocking on the door to remind me that I can't do this on my own and I wasn't supposed to.

Your faith walk is personal but in my experience, parenting is far easier when you do it with God. The bible says "Ask it and will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you." - Matthew 7:7. If you don't know where to start, simply ask. He will meet you there.

Find what works for you

While every mother's journey is unique, I hope these reflections offer inspiration and guidance for your journey. If you have suggestions based on your experience, i'd love to hear from you in the comments. I wish you all the peace, joy, and happiness in the world as you embark on your own journey and find what works for you! 

With love, 

Natalie Grace xx